The First Time I Was Cheated On, I Lost A 4 Months Old Pregnancy, My BP Skyrocketed - Lady Shares How Infidelity Affects Women

Olatope Omoniyi, a Nigerian woman, has stated that infidelity can have a really significant effect on the mental and physical health of a woman.

Sharing her experience in a Facebook post on Tuesday, December 31, Olatope narrated how she suffered a miscarriage after she was cheated on.

‘’Shall we talk about cheating and its effects?! Men, your cheating ways affect your women. You really need to know this. So when you do it, know the repercussions too. Don't say, I did not know it will lead to this. For every action, there will be cause and effect,"

The first time I experienced cheating, I lost a 4 months old pregnancy. I couldn't believe it. I couldn't stand it. My BP sky rocketed. I was in deep pain. Those kind of pain where you can't scream out but your heart is screaming.

It was as if a dagger pierced my heart and no one to remove it. I would pinch myself. Cried myself to sleep and wake up. Imagine so many things. I went into the cupboard, pack all the clothes there and burnt it.

I cried. I cried. I cried. I cried for days. I refused to step out.

My eyes got swollen and a neighbour asked why, I lied that I was reacting to my glasses.

I lost the will to live. If you have experienced deep love, you will experience deep pain when you face betrayal.

Now I don be jigan. You cheat on me, I no send you. I don turn witch sef. No woman will come to me about cheating and I will advice her to leave. NEVER! You two go dye there together. Unless you like sufferness, my dear, stay there and thrive. People like us survived too and we no die. Look at me nahhhh....

I know. I know. We've told a lot of women that cheating should never be a deal breaker. Most times, this advice is borne out of the fact that our society frowns at divorce, and moreover, once you leave your marital home, the burden to take care of the kids fall on you. While the man will continue to enjoy his life, and possibly marry another woman and move on. At times, these take a toll on women, hence the advice to stay in a marriage IF it's devoid of violence.

But men, have you really thought about the effect this your cheating has on your women?

Know this today, fear any woman that doesn't react when you cheat. You should be scared. Be really scared.

She's either cheating back or have no feelings for you again. An angry woman is a devoted and loving wife. She's reacting cos the love is there and she doesn't want to lose her home and her man.

Once that is gone, the marriage is just an emotionless one. She's just surviving cos she has nowhere to go.

I remember posting a matchmaking request and a married woman signified interest. I was shocked. I asked why, she said she's planning to leave her marriage. I told her the post was for single ladies not married women, and she told me to specify next time. Now there is a married woman, she's tired of the marriage, but she's in it. Why? Society! Lack of options. And at times, no financial wherewithal to go into the next phase of separation.

Men, I will advice from a realistic point of view. Cos sincerely, there are too many women searching for a partner out there, me oh, I'm not against polygamy, but I cannot practice it.

But...but...but

If you want to go into polygamy, prepare your wife's mind. Prepare her heart. Cos you cannot swear to spend a lifetime with someone, then change the rules in the middle of the journey. That's wickedness!

As we enter into the new year, 2025. If you must cheat, please, please, code it. Respect your wife. Respect your marriage. Use condoms. Don't bring diseases home. Take care of the home cos charity actually begins from home.

You see that I'm not preaching faithfulness… Do better. Be better.