Dating today has been altered by 3 major factors which has changed the natural order of things in courtship... Popular relationship and s*x therapist, Joro Olumofin writes.
Joro Olumofin
1. MONEY: Because of Bad economy, unemployment, idleness amongst the ladies ; some ladies tend to see any man who can give them comfort and money as a husband material instantly without any proper vetting or research. Money is now synonymous with affection today and should be rewarded with s*x.
What some ladies don't realize is that some men have a lot of money to throw around, and it means nothing to them to spend on you. The true measure of a mans affection should be in TIME & Gestures. If he can't give you his time then you're just sexual exercise to him.
2. THE SWITCH: You may not agree but the Value of a successful Eligible Bachelor today is worth N30,000,000 or more because society has attached a lady's success to Marriage. Guys are now aware that their values have gone up because of the pressures on ladies to get married. A guy now knows that any lady he meets is most likely under pressure to get married so he uses Marriage as a tool to manipulate her into sleeping with him.
Based on Thousands of mails I receive from clients, when some ladies hear the Word "Marry" they take off their clothes to please a man. This is SAD!
3. WRONG THOUGHT PROCESS: This is sad but some ladies think s*x will make a man commit to them or take them to his parents. Ladies, s*x will never make a man commit. Most Good men today are looking for a strong, supportive, financially stable, beautiful lady. S*x doesn't cut it anymore, any girl can give a man s*x.
It's simple Biology but not every girl is employed, has a skill, is prayerful or can cook.
All 3 factors listed above rapidly increase Body Counts which makes some ladies depressed. Depression takes you away from the Light. If you're not in the light and blossoming like a Flower. How will true Love find you?
Ladies empower yourself. Take control of your life.